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"A lesson is learned but the damage is irreversible"

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Love’s Disintegration in Western Society, Pt. 2

Love as mutual sexual satisfaction, and love as “team-work” and as a haven from aloneness, are the two “normal” forms of the disintegration of love in modern Western society, the socially patterned pathology of love. There are many individualized forms of the pathology of love, which result in conscious suffering and which are considered neurotic by psychiatrists and an increasing number of laymen alike. Some of the more frequent ones are briefly described in the following examples.

The basic condition for neurotic love lies in the fact that one or both of the “lovers” have remained attached to the figure of a parent, and transfer the feelings, expectations and fears one once had toward father or mother to the loved person in adult life; the persons involved have never emerged from a pattern of infantile relatedness, and seek for this pattern in their affective demands in adult life. In these cases, the person has remained, affectively, a child of two, or of five, or of twelve, while intellectually and socially he is on the level of his chronological age. In the more severe cases, this emotional immaturity leads to disturbances in his social effectiveness; in the less severe ones, the conflict is limited to the sphere of intimate personal relationships.

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Love’s Disintegration in Western Society, Pt. 1

Just as Freud’s concept of love is a description of the experience of the patriarchal male in terms of nineteenth-century capitalism, Sullivan’s description refers to the experience of the alienated, marketing personality of the twentieth century. It is a description of an “egotism à deux," of two people pooling their common interests, and standing together against a hostile and alienated world. Actually his definition of intimacy is in principle valid for the feeling of any cooperating team, in which everybody "adjusts his behavior to the expressed needs of the other person in the pursuit of common aims" (it is remarkable that Sullivan speaks here of expressed needs, when the least one could say about love is that it implies a reaction to unexpressed needs between two people).

- Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving, pg. 87, 1956

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I didn’t even get off the bus yet and I already have strangers smiling at me. This is going to be a good weekend.

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SORRY IF I UNFOLLOWED YOU
I still have brotherly love for you all,

But I’m starting to hate Internet more. I’m tired of Tumblr. I hate my blog, I’m considering deleting it, if it wasn’t for my near-worthless writing. But then again, I had good times with my blog, and the people of Tumblr made me laugh many times (and hey, I met at least 7 people from Tumblr IRL).

Today, work was moderately stressful, which triggered hypomania. I need more focus in my life. Less chest pain, less stiff shoulders, less distractions. (And yes, I know it’s ironic to type this on Tumblr in the first place.)

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Anonymous asked: you know you can't write analytik without anal. explain yourself young man.

What is this? Did someone offer a bitcoin to everyone on 4chan who sends me anon asks? Did someone teach squirrels how to make coffee and blog?

Also. I’m not a young man. I don’t explain myself to any man. (well, okay, if we don’t count all the times when I’ve been over-explaining everything to an imagined Internet audience.)

Tell me a story, anon. 

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Anonymous asked: Tumblr was giving errors, did not mean to post that twice. Anger, desperation and instability turn me on, let's keep in touch. Orally and rectally yours, Acetylsalicylic Ass

analytik:

GET AWAY FROM ME

Although seriously though, you should come hang out sometimes. It’s lovely here in summer. Picnics in Kadriorg and Friday CS meetings at the seaside and brightness outside from 3am to 2am are some of my favouritest things ever. #manic periods #good company #lots of cheese

Fuck, now I’ve realized this isn’t who I thought it was. Yay I have my official first internet anonymous semi-creep!

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Anonymous asked: Tumblr was giving errors, did not mean to post that twice. Anger, desperation and instability turn me on, let's keep in touch. Orally and rectally yours, Acetylsalicylic Ass

GET AWAY FROM ME

Although seriously though, you should come hang out sometimes. It’s lovely here in summer. Picnics in Kadriorg and Friday CS meetings at the seaside and brightness outside from 3am to 2am are some of my favouritest things ever. #manic periods #good company #lots of cheese

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Anonymous asked: Some dude in his early 30s? You are surely catering for the demographic looking for mature MILF*, but this is deceitful! * Your name.

Uhm. Yeah, because ALL THE TIME I bump into chicks who go “Oh, you’re in you’re 30s? That’s so hot, take me now.” ESPECIALLY on Tumblr.

Because as is well known, Tumblr’s demographic are TOTALLY mature people with regular income, no neuroses, solid life plan, who are emotionally stable and have a busy life, and most of them REALLY want to date a grumpy old fuck in his late twenties who feels more like early 40s and thinks being a social outcast is a desirable career choice.

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Anonymous asked: "I'm some dude in his early 30s living in Tallinn." - You are not even THIRTY yet. Understandably you believe your readers are all here for mature MILF*, but really, decieving them is not nice. *Yes. Your name.

You acetylsalicylic ass. I’m too lazy to edit it every year.

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your tracking habits are aggravating my paranoia levels. now I remember when I was at your place the first time and saw YOU NAMED MY BROWSER AFTER ME. AND IT WAS OPERA, F THAT.

Ahahahahahaha, good old times.

But, to be precise, it was by IP address, not by browser.

If it helps I don’t pay much attention to statcounter these days, as I have an average of 132 pageloads per day (88 visits), most of them, naturally, getting here from google to read one article about statcounter, which is also the source of all these semi-creepy asks.

It was fun to be “popular” for a while, but I’m getting pretty tired of it.

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